Penis and Male Sexuality Facts
The Penis Through Your Life
Like all parts of the body, the penis changes as it ages. The truly young penis - in babies and grade-school boys - is basically a sleeper. True, it gets hard during dreams and at other times, especially when stimulated, but it doesn't do much otherwise except for resting and urinating.
The problem for many teenage boys is not getting it up but trying to keep it down.
The writer Julitis Lester recalls just how ubiquitous and embarrassing the adolescent penis can be:
"That thing was always there.
Every time we went to the john, there it was, twitching around like a fat
little worm on a fishing hook. When we took baths, it floated in the water
like a lazy fish and God forbid we should touch it! It sprang to life like
lightning leaping from a cloud.... I was helpless. It was there, with a
life and mind of its own, having no other function than to embarrass me."
And what orgasms these are. The force is explosive and the pressure
is immense; large amounts of semen fly across the room. And if the owner
doesn't stimulate himself to orgasm, then it happens all by itself in wet
Never again will it be so quick to get hard, so stiff; never again will the orgasms be so explosive and the need for them so insistent.
There will also be a loss of
independence over time. The adolescent penis needs little or nothing from
the outside. It gets hard on its own, without needing physical or other
kinds of stimulation. As it ages, it will require more stimulation of
The erection that in younger years pointed up may now just stick straight out; the one that in previous times stuck straight out may now, though stiff, point slightly down. In most cases, these are just normal changes and nothing to get excited about.
The need for orgasm is less
pronounced. The force of the ejaculation is less, as is the amount
ejaculated. To have good sex
after fifty, attending to the penis's condition becomes more important.
Things that before usually
produced erection - seeing one's partner undressed, kissing and hugging,
even watching X-rated movies - now may not do so. Penises at this age
often take longer to ejaculate and they don't need to ejaculate every
time. Every second or third time is fine.
The Pleasures Of The Soft Penis!
Penises do not have to be hard to produce pleasure. A soft penis has just as many nerve endings as a hard one and is therefore capable of generating good feelings. Whether it is exactly as enjoyable as an erect penis is difficult to say.
Although the number of nerve endings doesn't change,
it's possible that the engorgement of the hard penis with blood amplifies
the erection, and some say it doesn't make any difference. And it's also
possible to have an orgasm with a soft penis.
Have you ever started a sexual experience, alone or with a partner, without an erection? How did it feel as you or your partner stimulated your soft penis? Didn't it feel good?
And it probably didn't feel as good as it could because you or you and
your partner were focused on making it hard and were therefore
anticipating what was to come rather than what was happening at the
enjoy sex without an erection. And your
partner will know she can give you pleasure without your having an
Many men at this age decide they're over the hill as far as sex goes, or that they need some help.
Getting help is realistic for some, but for others all that's needed is the understanding that just because something isn't the way it was twenty, thirty, or forty years ago doesn't mean you can't use and enjoy it.
A raging erection that points at the ceiling and that won't quit is not necessary for good sex.
After all, many men in
their sixties enjoy walking, jogging, and dancing even though they can't
move as fast or as far as they did when they were thirty. The senior penis
can still give and take pleasure, even though it's
not the same as it was
But the penis and the rest of the body never lose their capacity for pleasure. There are men in their seventies, eighties, and even nineties who enjoy sex.
As do their partners. According to many
women I've spoken with, the owners of penises often develop qualities as
they age that more than make up for the declining powers of their penises.
These women say that older men are attractive sexually because they are
more open to emotion and generally more loving, more patient, cannot
ejaculate as quickly.
The adolescent penis is the one that's idealized and idolized in the popular media, and it's also the first penis males have sexual experience with. Many men expect a penis of any age to act like the adolescent one.
But almost every man expects his penis to behave the way it did
when he was seventeen or, just as bad, the way he wishes it had behaved
when he was seventeen.