Penis and Male Sexuality Facts
What Does Having An Erection Mean?
Does this mean all men want to
have sex three to five times a night? While they're asleep? We really
don't know why these erections occur or what they mean, but studies have
been done in which the men were awakened during their dreams and asked
what they were dreaming about. Sex isn't one of the main topics.
This causes embarrassment and frantic efforts to hide the bulge
behind books, packages, and jackets. I played football in high school and
invariably had an erection when "The Star-Spangled Banner" was played
before each game. I guarantee that sex was the farthest thing from my mind
at the moment.
This isn't the kind of rape we usually hear about, but the evidence is
clear that the male victims did get erect and were able to have
intercourse. Erections are not only produced by positive, loving, or lusty
You may have an erection and you may be wonderfully turned on, but if your head reminds you that the woman in question is your best friend's or boss's wife, or that you have no protection against disease or unwanted pregnancy, you may want to think carefully about what to do.
What Does Not Having An Erection mean?
Just as many people confuse erection with an interest in sex, they also confuse lack of erection with a lack of sexual interest.
Women are especially likely to make this error and to
personalize it. If you don't have an erection in a sexual situation, your
partner may well assume that you're not turned on to her or that she
doesn't know what to do to turn you on. It's possible, of course, that
she's right. Maybe you're not aroused by her at the moment or ever, or
maybe she's not doing what you'd like.
But your penis doesn't respond. Although this situation is enormously frustrating to men, and often their partners as well, there is always an answer. There is an obstacle preventing your arousal from translating into an erection. In some cases the barrier is obvious and simple.
For example, perhaps you require a certain kind of stimulation to get hard and you're not getting it. Maybe your partner doesn't know that's what you need, maybe she forgot, or maybe she's upset and doesn't want to supply it.
Or maybe because you've had so much sex in the last day or so,
your penis is simply too tired to get hard again. But usually the obstacle
is something else.
A number of medical conditions are known
to affect the nervous system's ability to control blood flow or the
ability of blood to get into and stay in the penis. Hormonal imbalances,
diabetes, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injuries and back
problems, injuries to the pelvis, long-term cigarette smoking, and
alcoholism are some of these conditions.
Your ability to get and maintain erections can also be influenced by your emotions and the state of your relationship. Anxiety about whether you'll get or maintain an erection is a common obstacle to getting erections. But other feelings also enter in.
Anger, for instance, no matter who it's
directed at, can block your ability to get hard. So can the absence of a
feeling, the lack of arousal. If you're not turned on, perhaps because
you're highly anxious, because your mind is preoccupied with something
else, or because you don't like your partner or don't find her attractive,
this may be enough to prevent stimulation from translating into erection.